Madeleine Fawcett Co-Founder, Project MM and Co-Founder, La Famille
Faced with an hour to yourself (perhaps a problem you don’t often have), what do you do with free time?
Oh an hour to myself is a dream come true! Truthfully, these days when I get some time to myself, I can usually be found organizing and purging and cleaning out drawers, closets, cabinets, etc...I think they call that nesting, ha! I’m pregnant with my third, recently moved apartments in NYC and also settling into a new home in Massachusetts so we have a lot of projects happening at once! Given an extra hour (or even 10 minutes!), I can also be found in my bathroom doing masks, painting myself with lotions and potions, or taking a bath. that said, the self care activities usually inspire my children to join in on the fun so, while heavenly and full of joy, not always alone time :)
What is the thing you bought in the last three months that you have most enjoyed?
I would say there are two things, more in the experiential realm, that we’ve invested in in the last three months that have returned so much joy. First, weekly appointments for body work with Lara Kohn Thompson has been such a gift. She is a miracle worker and I highly recommend seeking her out, whether you are expecting or postpartum or anywhere else on your journey. Her time, presence and expertise is worth every penny and more. We have also been buying new plants and varietals for our gardens in Massachusetts and it’s been amazing to see these begin to blossom and flourish. The peonies bloomed in June and they took my breath away.
What’s the last song you listened to?
Just listened to Otis Redding “That’s How Strong My Love Is” which is my wedding song with my husband. It popped on the Leon Bridges Pandora channel I was listening to -- yes I still use Pandora! -- and it simultaneously brought me so much joy and also made me weep. Pregnancy hormones in full effect.
Did you learn anything new in the last 12 months that has surprised you?
As a lifelong ‘people person’ who takes tremendous joy in being surrounded by my beloved humans, I was surprised to find how much I also really enjoyed some quiet ‘me time.’ I don’t think I’d ever slowed down enough to appreciate how nice it can be to not schedule every moment of my day and to not have plans 6 nights a week. If a silver lining of the pandemic exists, for me it is the slower pace of life and the extra thoughtfulness and intention that goes into plans and things.What is a parenting quality you admire in one of your parents, friends of siblings that you’d like to emulate when you become a mother?
I have learned SO MANY THINGS from my parent friends but I would say one of the best qualities I’ve picked up on and which I try to put into practice daily is to treat my children as whole, conscious, capable human beings who are worthy of our respect from day one. This approach supports a fulfilling journey for both children and parents and, from what I’ve seen, helps to nurture confident, grounded, kind, lovely kids.
2020 has dealt us all with lots of challenges - what was a low moment in 2020 and how did you overcome or face it?
We suffered the crippling loss of a very close family friend, more like a sister to me and also my mum’s goddaughter, who had just given birth to a baby girl 8 days earlier. To navigate this kind of traumatic loss during any time is completely devastating and destabilizing but it was especially hard not to be able to gather as a family and community to grieve her loss. The lack of closure still tricks me to this day into thinking it was all a very bad dream. Fortunately, as vaccinations have become more widely available and we’ve been able to gather again, we’ve been able to see her husband, children, and our close family and friends which has kickstarted a healing that hadn’t happened since her tragic death.
What are you most looking forward to in a post-vaccine world? What bar, restaurant, or place are you most eager to visit?
I’ve been so, so grateful to be able to physically get together with humans whom I love and have missed so much in the past year. My dad and stepmom recently came up from Savannah to see our new home in Massachusetts and we had a clambake and danced barefoot in the grass with family and friends. It was magic and I’m so grateful to have the ability to be with loved ones and celebrate special milestones again. As far as a physical location, I am desperate to get back to Italy and am planning a month long sojourn to Ischia next August with some of my best girlfriends, their families and our one hundred kids, ha!
Do you believe in setting personal goals? If so, how do you hold yourself accountable to them?
I have always been pretty lackluster at setting personal goals and sticking to them, as unfortunate as that is to admit. Until this past year. In May of 2020, I realized that alcohol was no longer serving me and I stopped drinking overnight. At first my goal was to stop for a month, which turned into 3 months, which has turned into over a year. This personal goal, which I’ve met and which sort of continues to evolve, has given me a level of confidence, pride and strength that I didn’t really know I possessed before I set out on this journey. I’m really proud of it and the satisfaction and accomplishment that comes along with meeting this goal will absolutely lead to setting new ones for myself and my family in the future.
How important is community to you, and how do you go about building and nurturing it for your family?
Community is everything to me. I am teased for having tens of true best friends (I had 13 bridesmaids!) but I can’t live without my girlfriends. I am incredibly moved and grateful by how steady and consistent my female friendships are and remained throughout the past year, even as we all spread out across the world and were separated by mandatory quarantine requirements. There is nothing that lifts me up like an hours long phone catch up or, even better, an in person date that turns into an all day affair with my ladies. Beyond that, my family’s community in New York City has seen us through so much in the past 17 years and we feel so grateful for the wonderful people we have met here. From building our businesses to getting married to having babies to all things in between, those moments have meant so much more when we were able to share them with friends and celebrate the milestones with our people.Shop Madeleine's Look:Button-Front Dress