The kids are down, your work is done - how do you spend your “me” time, when you get it?
This became particularly important during quarantine. Would you believe me if I told you we stopped watching TV in March and started implementing an evening routine of unplugging in the evenings by candlelight? It was like living in a different era and I was ready for every minute of it!!! I took a bath, read a book, we played cards and we both looked forward to it every night. It feels a distant memory since our little girl arrived two weeks ago but we have kept the cards and the candles and honestly, it has made watching a movie such a treat! A little crazy I know!
What is the thing you bought in the last three months that you have most enjoyed?
I would be lying if I didn’t shout out to our above ground pool which we converted to saltwater and lined with bamboo for the extra touch! Our “project plage” was an investment but honestly made the summer heat with a toddler and no playgrounds far more enjoyable— we spend hours out there!
What is the quality you most like in yourself as a mother?
I am very relaxed and let the chaos unfold with pleasure. I believe childhood is meant to be a bit messy and embrace the mayhem and the magic for what it is — it leads to a very fun time!
What’s the quality you most like in one or all of your children that they did not inherit from you?
My lovely boy has such a gentle demeanor which he inherited from his father. He has an extraordinarily soft “touch” and when he lays his hand on yours it’s the most magical thing in the whole world!
What’s the other career you’d most like to try out, given a second professional life?
I would have loved to have pursued acting! Telling stories is one of my favorite things to do.
Is there anything that quarantine forced you to change that you would like to - or will - maintain post quarantine?
SO MUCH. Where to begin with this one? We would have been SLAMMED with work if it weren’t for COVID, traveling five weeks after giving birth (out of the country — again, for work), so would have had a lot more help. Instead, we are pretty much unemployed and hanging out with our children the whole time and it has changed us as parents — we want to make sure to maintain more of a work/life balance in future. Also, the pandemic and political/social situation in the U.S. has totally undone how we work/what we care about/want to do in this life and so we are spending a lot of time thinking about how to be better citizens both in our community and our business as we move forward.
What are the nicest things your partner does for you, and you for them?
My husband is so lovely, I am very lucky. Not only did he give me a massage every night for the last trimester of my pregnancy but he’s also given me an opportunity to just totally relax and enjoy the early stages of motherhood with our new baby (who is 17 days old). He brings me every meal in bed, helps me change the sheets every day, does all the laundry for us, etc. it has been one of life’s best presents. What do I do for him? I asked him to answer and I’m afraid it pales by comparison but he likes that I let him build things around the house — he really loves working with his hands and I am very supportive of all of his projects!
How important is routine to you? What parts of your routine are sacrosanct?
Routine is something that we have never been able to implement as adults — we are both very go with the flow people and so we never made our children fall into a super routine, either. BUT, I would say the routine of being home/ making the house cozy and stocking up on the foods we love is very important to us. Our routine has less to do with timing and more to do with ritual I suppose, so setting the table, wine o’clock, tidy rooms and fresh flowers around the house… we both love all of that!
What are your professional goals and how do you go about achieving them?
To do something creative that is self-sufficient and socially meaningful — I follow my dad’s motto as best I can which is “do it now, suck it up, trust your gut” and really try not to let failure in as an option, just pivot!
What are the things that make your home personal to you and your family?
Lots of collected items. Our house is a blend of things that we have found, my grandmother’s furniture, my mother’s pieces, etc. but really it’s a feeling — clean sheets, lovely smells, fluffy towels, things that make a home cozy and welcoming.
How important is community to you, and how do you go about building and nurturing it for your family?
So important! We used to have very open doors pre-pandemic and we loved it. We are now trying to get more involved in our wider community — supporting local schools, farms, politics, etc. I think the pandemic has made the world all feel more immediate, less in our own bubbles and we want to really show up for that!
What maternity style or clothing item could you not find this time around that you most wish FH would create?
Gosh, I really love everything!!!!!! My FH pieces were my favorite by far, always making me feel pulled together even at my most bursting moments. I wore my blue dress to go give birth! I really really loved all and did not want for anything but to answer the question fairly I was always looking for a white button-down dress that would work for my tummy.