The kids are down, the dog has been fed, and your partner’s otherwise engaged - how do you spend your “me” time, when you get it?
When I have “me” time I immediately lie down! I have this mat by HealthyLine made up of crystals and infrared lights that heat up and I spend quite a lot of time horizontal on that thing. If I’m not there I’m in bed reading on my phone or watching 90 Day Fiance or snacking on green apples and chocolate almonds….or managing to do all three at the same time.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve gotten from a mom that you’ve held on to because it felt resonant?
“If your baby is hungry, they will eat.” Once I was able to accept this it was very helpful, especially once my son started to eat solids and I’d stress when he refused to eat meals. He is 2 now and this is still something we struggle with but it doesn’t cause me to lose sleep anymore.
What is the thing you worried lots about when your child was first born that you’d tell other women to lose less sleep over?
I’d say pretty much EVERYTHING. However, a first-time mom will not be able to take that advice, just like I wasn’t able to when other moms said that to me. My biggest stress was my struggle with breastfeeding and worrying if my son was getting enough milk. Yes, that’s extremely important, but the level to which I stressed about it was not healthy and it was completely exacerbated by the internet and judgment from other people. You learn very quickly that babies are incredibly resilient and can handle a lot more than we think they can. I can only hope this time around I’m less stressed about most stuff.
What’s the other career you’d most like to try out, given a second professional life?
We will have to wait and see! There’s always the opportunity for a second professional life….or a third or a fourth. We are in charge of our own destiny. For now, I am very happy and my career is always evolving and changing day to day just organically.
Where and how did you meet your best friends? How do you stay in touch and support each other?
In addition to my sisters, my absolute closest friends are the girls I have known since high school or college. I am a very private and reserved person for the most part so I’m most comfortable with best friends who truly know my history. Some of these people are in Los Angeles (I live in NYC) so there’s a lot of group texts, Facetime, and Marco Polo videos. I love old friends because everyone morphs into completely different people as we get older, but we still remain friends, even though we might not become friends if we met today. I love the power of that bond. I’ve also been lucky to gain a lot of mom friends since having my first child. If you are a first-time mom, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to make mom friends! They will understand and support you like no one else.
What are the nicest things your partner does for you, and you for them?
My husband pretty much does everything for me in this pregnancy. He travels a ton for work but when he’s home he gets up in the mornings with our son so I can sleep in, he brings me food in bed at night, he takes our son for entire days on the weekends if I need to rest; he basically does all the stuff that needs to be done so I don’t have to think about it and can take care of myself. The nicest thing I do for my husband is probably birth his children! I hope he sees this and then this can be something nice I did for him. I do always make sure the house is stocked with his favorite snacks and foods….that counts, right?
What traditions are you building - or planning to build - for your family? Whydo they matter to you?
It’s really important to us that our children spend time where my husband grew up, which is a small village in England. We love raising a family in the city but realize they also need that time away from it where they can play outside and experience different cultures. The goal is to spend a few weeks there every summer and eventually, we will drop our children off with their grandparents and take some time for ourselves.
What are the things in your closet that you know you’ll be using and loving inthree years?
I will forever love all of my La Ligne sweaters. I have to stop myself from wearing one every day….they just work with everything. All of my Nili Lotan slips will never go out of style and they can be worn so many different ways in every type of weather. I will also never give up on my favorite boots of all time…..3.1 by Phillip Lim ‘Kyoto’ boots. I’ve worn them weekly in fall/winter for the last 2 years and I plan on keeping that up until they can’t be repaired anymore. They are literally the perfect boot.
What’s the last thing you celebrated?
The last thing I celebrated was my son Otto’s 2nd birthday last month. We chose not to have a party and instead he had his two best friends over and they ate Rubirosa and had cake. It was perfect and required almost no stressing!
What has been the hardest part of pregnancy dressing? What product wouldyou like FH to add to our assortment?
For me, the hardest part of pregnancy dressing is making the effort. Your body doesn’t feel like the one you’ve known your whole life and it’s very easy to get stuck in the leggings and oversized sweater rut. I would love for maternity brands like FH to make more one-stop-shop outfits, i.e. a top and pant/skirt set that can be worn separately but when worn together create a chic and effortless outfit. Anything that makes putting an outfit together easier is helpful for a pregnant woman!